Open up a new world by letting yourself fall, but safely!

I have always been afraid of ice, falling, sliding, skiing, snowboarding, skating, anything that may cause a physical lack of control. In my personal life I take big risks, but I have always been afraid of taking physical risks like these. It has been a big mental barrier since childhood – I never got on kids slides because they were so scary! A very astute and dear friend once told me that I should learn how to fall safely, like using aikido techniques, for example. I didn’t quite understand what he was saying then.
Recently, for the first time ever, I learned to let myself fall, and learn how to catch myself when I do, so I fall safely. I learned how to glissade.
That means to sit and slide down steep slopes on snow. It is often steep enough that the only way to stop yourself is to use an ice axe to ‘self-arrest’. When you are sliding down the snow on a steep mountain, you are not in control at that moment – gravity is controlling you. What you are in control of, however, is when you choose to stop. Sure, there is a risk, but is very minimal if you keep your wits and confidence about you.
And when you decide to let that confidence drive you, when you drop the fear, when you lean in to the experience, then you slide down screaming joyfully, whoo hoo! You experience freedom when you drop control. You experience joy when you let yourself go. You experience bliss when you work through your fears.
It took me many tries to get comfortable with glissading – it didn’t happen after the first time, or the second time, or the third time. But by the tenth time I started to feel comfortable. That’s the beauty of it! If you keep hacking away at it, then the fear drops and a whole new world opens up!
Now I can do hikes that were completely out of my reach before. Now I can dream of summiting Mt Rainier!
I have found my aikido of snow hiking. What is the area of your life that you feel fear and the need to keep control? What can you do to build the skills to catch yourself safely when falling, instead of shying away from things that might make you fall? What can you do to let go of your fear and allow yourself to open up to new possibilities?
By |2018-05-07T19:10:52-07:00May 7th, 2018|0 Comments

The power of body language

In this fantastic Ted talk, Amy Cuddy talks about the importance of body language, or non verbal communication, in allowing us to bring our best selves forward.
It is a fascinating insight into how much difference non verbal communication can make in our everyday lives. Who we hire, who we date, whether we sue a doctor or not, whether we like someone or not, this can greatly be impacted by body language and how we communicate with others non verbally.

There are studies that have shown that we judge people within seven seconds of meeting them! And it can be quite difficult to change that perception, once made.

In short, before we get nervous about anything, a simple act such as standing in a wonder woman pose, with our hands on our hips, even for two minutes, can improve our performance in job interviews or public speeches.

I’d encourage you to take it to the next level and raise hands and sing and dance and make yourself loud and big as often as you can, ideally in the privacy of your car or home, so you don’t come across as a lunatic! This will help you feel better even if you are feeling low or unhappy.

Happy power posing!

By |2017-10-12T20:42:15-07:00October 6th, 2017|0 Comments